Comments on: This Place is a Prison

By: Red Flashlight

Red Flashlight — Mon, 11 May 2009 19:15:17 +0000

That totally sucks, Pants. You deserve so much better! It isn’t about you, though. The people who work there are mentally ill. It’s obvious. Have you ever read “Tongue Fu?” It’s amazingly helpful for dealing with people like that.

By: MoDLin

MoDLin — Fri, 08 May 2009 18:46:37 +0000

First, I’m sorry about your situation. You probably won’t know why, over half of women who miscarry don’t find out why. It stinks and seems so incredibly unfair, and then to have a jerk like that one treat you so disrespectfully is so undeserved, so wrong.

Glad to know you’re feeling better today. Have a relaxing and fun weekend.

By: egan

egan — Thu, 07 May 2009 08:53:28 +0000

I recall my wife going through a similar resentment towards pregnant women. It lasted for a bit of time, but somehow that will change. Not sure when or how… but it will.

By: tori

tori — Mon, 04 May 2009 15:13:14 +0000

I almost never complain about this because I do have kids already but I get really sad when I go to my gynecologist because of all the pregnant women. They sit and talk to each other about all the fun times. I had a hysterectomy and every time I see a pregant woman it makes me a little sad. I am not going to say I understand how you feel, but I think I can sort of relate and I’m sorry! When I had my hysterectomy they put me on the maternity floor. Nothing like knowing I will never have another baby again and hearing all the babies and new moms.

I can’t believe how insensitive they are being to you. You would think they would understand and help you out a little more!

By: sizzle

sizzle — Sun, 03 May 2009 14:34:46 +0000

I think those who have gone through the pain of a miscarriage or lost a child should never be subjected to waiting in a room with a bunch of pregnant women or babies. That’s cruel!

By: The Grunt

The Grunt — Sat, 02 May 2009 17:35:12 +0000

Most privately owned hospitals are a total pain to deal with when arranging payment plans. I’m not sure if the place you went to is, but I did my nuepogen injections at Lakeview instead of Huntsman because I thought it would be cheaper to get those done closer to home. That was a big mistake. I found out that I wasn’t being billed for a nurse’s visit. Instead, they charged me emergency room fees each time, and I had a total of 30 injections from them. My bill was enormous. Dealing with their financial department was pure hell. Having to ward off their collection agencies while still going through cancer hell was almost more than I could bear. And some people still wonder why we need health care reform in this country?

Hang in there, Pants.

By: foundinidaho

foundinidaho — Sat, 02 May 2009 03:52:01 +0000

Pants,

I’m sorry you’re having to deal with such assholes. When you deal with a “non profit” hospital or organization, my understanding is they HAVE to accept payments but that is in Idaho – it may be different in Utah. Just the same, if you make payments, they aren’t going to turn you over to collection because then they know there’s a big possibility you’ll say “FU” and they’ll get NOTHING.

Hang in there. I know you must be having ups and downs (quite understandably) but your ups sounds more frequent and you are staying strong. Good for you.

By: Pants

Pants — Fri, 01 May 2009 21:19:00 +0000

ubermilf,
They finally said they’ll accept payments but there were all vague about it…if I didn’t love my doctor so much I would find a new one.

marty,
My OBGYN office was surprisingly insensitive. It did seem to help their collections bitch, I mean person, ease up when I started crying.

punchlinewalking,
You are on to something with doctors’ office staff requiring their employees to be raging bitches.

Stefanie,
My bills also say “Balance Due” without a due date. When I told them I’d pay mid-month they said they would probably be able to keep from sending me to collections. BULLSHIT. I should probably say something to my doctor about her staffs’ inability to use any form of customer service but I have so much other shit going on that by the time I’m in her office I’m a bundle of nerves.

Yesterday was not my best…I also cried on the phone with the third medical billing company. The “customer service rep” sounded like Roz from Monster’s Inc. and was a regular fucking nightmare. When she realized I was crying she flatly said, “Are you crying? I CERTAINLY hope it wasn’t anything I said.” The bills have descriptions of my D&C and miscarriage…I guess the details don’t phase medical billing staff unless it has to do with not receiving enough money.

By: Stefanie

Stefanie — Fri, 01 May 2009 21:07:08 +0000

They won’t accept partial payments?? What kind of ridiculous nonsense is that?? When I get a bill from the doctor’s office, it doesn’t even have a due date on it. It just says “Balance Due” or something like that. It doesn’t tell me by when it’s due, so why couldn’t I just pay when I’m able?

I have a friend who said she deliberately paid only $20 every time her clinic sent her a bill, just to annoy them because she was so disgruntled with them. As far as I know, they didn’t send a collections agency after her, so hopefully they’ll ease off of you, too.

By: punchlinewalking

punchlinewalking — Fri, 01 May 2009 20:20:42 +0000

I think it’s a prerequisite for people who work in doctors’ offices to be raging bitches. People are assholes. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this!