Tomorrow I am participating in Blog Share! I be will hosting an anonymous Blog Share participant’s post here. Somewhere out there I will have an anonymous post, too. GOODY! I love Blog Share time because the anonymity makes for some super juicy/interesting reading. And really productive work day. 
I will post a list of blog share participants later tonight.
I feel bad talking about the miscarriage. Everyone tells me not to feel badly, but I can’t help it. No one knows what to say in response and it’s not even that I need anything said, it’s more that I need listening. I’m saddened that my healthcare does not offer more help for miscarriage bereavement and I’m getting worried about what they’ll cover from the D&C. It was considered an emergency procedure so there was no time to have it authorized. Thus far I have not had many positive experiences with my health care provider; I’m getting worried. For example, if you go to the emergency room and the insurance company declares your illness was not life threatening (according to their who-knows-how-the-hell-they-make-them-up standards), they will not cover anything. So having general anesthesia, surgery, and what not, I am shitting bricks waiting to hear back from them.
Aw Pants. I feel for you. I excel at worrying about things before they happen, and anticipating how I’m going to go batshitcrazy when things go the wrong way that I don’t want them to. I constantly have to remind myself that there’s no point worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. Of course, it’s a battle between my emotions and my logic. And emotions normally win. But every once in a while my logical side prevails.
I hope you don’t stress yourself out too much about things that are out of your control. Break things off in small manageable pieces and try to anticipate everything actually working out. Because I’m betting things will end up going your way. If not, I plan on going batshitcrazy on your behalf. :^)
I am not going to tell you what happened to my friend after her recent medical experience. It will only upset you.
I will agree with you though. Health care is a bunch of bullshit. For example, if I want to go to therapy I have to first pay $200 out of pocket before my benefits kick in AND they count those visits that I am paying full price for as part of the 12 I am allowed. WTF? I cry bullshit!
Whenever there is loss, people seem to have no idea what to do when really all that’s needed is love and listening. Why is it that something so simple seems to strain people so much?
That is really shitty that in addition to dealing with the trauma of a miscarriage, you have to worry about your insurance.
And, I think that you should write about your experiences — there is a lot of healing in that. Personally, as your friend, I am glad that I can be a vehicle to your healing by reading what you have to say.
I hope you know I am always here to listen. I love you oodles and it makes me sad when you are in pain, be it emotional or physical. Insurance is bullshit. Poop on insurance!
Hi. This is the first time I have read your blog, and it has really make me feel less alone in my pain. I had an early miscarriage and it was kinda a shock, cos you feel your body changing and then it stops.
Everything will work out in the end….. Please continue to write!!
Pants, we’re here to listen. And if that helps, I am glad, because you’re right, no one can say anything to help because it’s just not “fixable” in that way.
By the way, I am a Benefits professional. If you have issues, I can tell you how to “insurance speak”. You have my e-mail. Let me know if I can help interpret any bullshit that comes your way.
Talk away. It helps. I still talk about having cancer to anyone and everyone who will listen. You never know who you will help in sharing your experiences.
Oh man. Health insurance is the last thing you should have to worry about at times like this… or ANY time, actually. The fact that we still live in a country where health care isn’t just a given continually makes me sad.
Take care, Pants.